On Monday we had the memorial for Hairballs friend that passed away. It was nice to see everyone and things were going smoothly. Then they played a slide-show of Mark over the years. When his two youngest children ( ten and twelve )seen a picture of them with their dad they burst out in tears. It broke my heart.
Then on Tuesday night we get the call that Harry's dad had passed away. This was a good thing as he was in a very painful way and his quality of life was non-existent. He was 87 and have lived a full life so his passing was a blessing for all involved.
This got me thinking of the difference we feel when someone young dies, or someone that is in alot of pain. It makes the acceptance of the death much more easy. I haven't seen a tear shed yet over Harry's dad. I did get a little moist yesterday when I went to the nursing home to pick up his belongings. As I walked up to the door I realized I wasn't going there to see him. When I went down the hall to his room all his stuff was packed in boxes at the door and the bed was empty : (
Sorry that this had to be such a downer blog, On a positive note Harry got a brand new pair of black dress shoes that his dad hadn't worn that will come in handy for the funeral.
Thoughts and prayers are with you Carol, Yes we do look at things differently, I suppose when its someone of a certain age, you know they've had their life, kids and grandkids and illness is also a painfull thing to watch! My Dad died suddenly at 55, I was 30 but my youngest brother was only 17, he's the one I felt for.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a downer blog in my opinion. As far as I know, death is inevitable......when it comes to someone who is "lived out" then a funeral should be a celebration of a hopefully welllifed existence. When it comes to someone younger, there is sadness that a life was cut short uncompleted and perhaps a reminder that we never know what the next day will bring.
ReplyDeleteAnd even if my death (whenever it occurs) is a blessing, I think I'd still like to be missed a bit...because that would mean I meant something to someone else.
My dad was pretty young as well he was 63, I was pregnant with Nevada at the time.
ReplyDeleteEm, that is a perfect way of saying it.
ReplyDeleteI understand the age difference thing. My mom was very sick and 86 when she passed. I stil cried forever when she passed though, even though i knew it was best. what a funny silver lining you found. brand new shoes for Harry.
ReplyDeleteThat's because she's a frugal sort. But its also kind of nice that Hairball has the shoes that kind of connect him to his dad. I felt the same way when my friends mother passed.......there were a couple of cool mini-tool sets that she'd never gotten around to using and no one else needed - and they not only are something I can use, but they remind me of her.
ReplyDeleteDeepest sympathies at your loss, Carol. May God hold your family together at this difficult time and keep you all in the palm of his hand.
ReplyDeleteI was only five when my Dad died. But I was only married a year when Mom died. Duke's Dad died the year before I met him. His mother (well that's another blog) is 84.