I am reading a book right now by Ann Rule. She is a true crime writer, that tries to bring the victim's character alive through talking of their past up until their demise. Anyways in the book I am reading now "Too Late To Say Goodbye"one of her victims thought she was having an online affair with a sensitive guy, who turned out to be a woman. What I am leading up to here is, how much info does one give away on the internet without really knowing who they are talking to?
A couple of years back a group I belonged to exchanged real life addresses so we could send christmas and birthday cards. I never really felt comfortable doing it. I know all the ladies were legit but I still had ill feelings. Nothing ill toward has happened because of this and I have received beautiful cards from many a countries. I still wonder though if I did a wise thing.
I have also met 3 people in real life that I met online. Em, her best bud Patti and another lady Judy. They all turned out to be wonderful people and I would have never wanted to miss out on that oppurtunity.
What info do you share and how many real life meetings with internet people have you all had? Have you ever regretted TMI?
enquiring minds want to know?
I love Ann Rule - I've read a lot of her true crime books. Now, to answer your question......I rarely give out my last name or my address - I have to know someone very well. You are more open about that stuff than I am, lol. I have never had a bad experience with anyone I met on the internet, and I guess I've met about a dozen now, both men and women.
ReplyDeleteThey've all been wonderful people (though mostly not quite so amazing as you and your crew).
But I've never been "looking for love" out there. I think that's really where the problem comes in because people stop using their brains and start thinking with their heart. I've witnessed several online relationships that turned out to not be what they thought - and every single time there were warning signals that the person chose to overlook or ignore.
Ann Rule is a great author! :) I have exchanged real letters and cards and such with online people, but have never met them in real life..yet. lol I try to be careful who I tell what to. I trust the people in my friends list, most I have had as online friends for a LONG time. I keep my blogs set to contacts only, unless it has no personal info in them.
ReplyDeleteI did meet my hubby on an online dating service. lol So far, that has worked out great! LOL But really, I try to screen what I say and post when it comes to public consumption. :)
I have never met anyone in person from the internet. I have talked to them online though. John is very leary about who i talk to. He is always saying How do you know your not talking to an ax murderer. After a while, you just get to know who you are tallking to. I dont give out my address to very many people, and i think maybe three people from here have my number. I dont have a large group of friend on here, just because I am not really very trusting of people I dont know, and also too scared to go out looking for them. I will keep my circkle of friends samll and safe for me.
ReplyDeleteI say better safe than sorry..after time I have gotten to know people online who are trustworthy. Just like in my daily life when I meet people, I don't immediately give them too much info.I like to get to know people first and check their trunk for an axe LOL
ReplyDeleteWow, what a great topic. I have met some of the most amazing people online. Hell, I even met my husband online nearly 11 years ago. I have a large circle of friends. Mostly people from 360. I am not precious about my address it can be found by anyone. I bet I could even find yours carol. I don't know your last name but I bet I could find it fast enough.
ReplyDeleteI have only met one of my blog buddies and her name is Mavis and she is coming to stay with me again in July. When I met her in person she was exactly like what she was online.
Our Lisa of course has become my best friend over the past couple of years. I would pretty much walk on fire for her or John.
Em is an amazing character who wears her personality on her shirtsleeve. If she has secrets to hide they aren't worth knowing. She is so open and honest, how can we not trust her.
LuLu is a heart warming friend who would give you the shirt off her back if she could and has been a great moral support to me for a long time now. I would trust her totally!
You Carol, I have only blogged with for a while but can tell that you are a funny, warm and enchanting person that I would look forward to meeting one day. Do I trust you? Sure...you have never given me reason not too! Would I give you my address....yup...I Trust Em's judgement and she thinks an awful lot of you.
I think my online friends are the best. Better then my offline friends at times! LOL!
Now if someone was starting to ask way too many personal questions or started talking about finances, investiment opportunites or asked for money, I would be long gone.
ROFLMAO - if only Amber knew - eh Carol.....What evil lurks in the mind of Em?
ReplyDeletePoor Lisa will have to meet two of us at once (I think she should have to meet you too, Carol - I wish you could find some reason to come to Vegas.)
Hey Amber - I think perhaps you should pick up a couple of axes once you arrive in Vegas (cause I don't think they are allowed on the plane) and we can be axe wielding maniacs together - won't Big John love that.
What happened to my picture?
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